The Power of the WHY


This post is by Adriana Lima:

When I moved to London, England, in 2002 I had a dream. I was so naive. I didn’t do my homework very well. I thought I was going to the land of opportunity and dreams. I thought I could move to a new country with no knowledge of the language at all, no friends, with just a burning desire to make money and things would work out just great.

Well, it was a “little” harder than I thought. I soon realized that learning the language was a MUST and making friends was also a MUST.

It took me some time to master the language to the level where I could do more than just clean bathrooms. I looked at the life I was having in London and it felt like I had made the wrong decision to move to a foreign country. I left behind a great job in Brazil, left my friends and family there, and left a comfortable life to try something completely new, somewhere I had never been.

Sometimes in life we feel like we are being tested. Things just don’t look good. It seems everything is going wrong. However, something inside kept me in London. I knew I could be more. I wanted to be more. I had a powerful WHY. I decided I wouldn’t give up.

However, things were getting worse. I just didn’t want to get out of bed anymore. I had no reason in my mind to wake up. I just wanted to keep sleeping. I couldn’t tell my friends what was going on. I was ashamed by my behavior. I was acting depressed. I wasn’t myself.

I had a life that many would die for. I didn’t need to work for money anymore; money was not a problem in my life. It hadn’t always been like that though. There was a time when I had less money, but life had more meaning. I lost the meaning of my life and in doing so, I almost lost my life.

From that experience I understood that money doesn’t give your life a powerful meaning. Please, do not get me wrong. I think it’s wonderful to have money but it will not make you fulfilled.

Money will provide you with the opportunity to see different places, travel the world, dine out in world class restaurants, have a comfortable life, help others and so on. But what will make you fulfilled is your contribution to others and to the world. 

That is what was missing in my life in 2005. I was not contributing. I felt like if I didn’t exist it would not make any difference to the world. It would make a difference to certain people close to me, but that didn’t seem sufficient motivation to get out of bed.

My journey of transformation started right there. I knew I had to find a more meaningful reason to wake up and get out of  bed everyday. I then decided to go back to school and took a Master’s degree in Marketing by Kingston University in London, United Kingdom.

The fact that I – a girl from a poor suburb of Rio de Janeiro – was able to obtain a post graduate Master’s degree from an English university blew my mind. What else could I do?

“Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” Martin Luther King Jr. (1929 – 1968)

The last three years of my life have been the most significant and magnificent of all.

I first found the most powerful meaning for life after having my daughter. Being a mother has given me the answers I was looking for. 

After experiencing depression myself I developed a “curiosity/obsession” in understanding human behavior and why we do the things we do. I have been educating myself in the field of human behavior and personal development.

My mission: Everyday of my life I inspire and help people to create a better life.  I now wake up everyday knowing I make a difference and that makes a huge difference in my life.

What are the reasons you get out of bed everyday? Do you know your WHY for being here right now?

Knowing your mission in life is what will give you the tools to create the life you want.

The reason why I wanted to tell you my story is so that you don’t waste any more time in your life just working to make/have money. There is a psychology behind it all and the money will come to you if you have a strong reason WHY to have it.

Adriana Lima is a Brazilian who lives in Toronto with her husband and a two year old daughter. She lived in London, United Kingdom for five years before moving to Toronto four years ago. She is a Certified Life Coach, Certified NeuroLinguistic Programing Practitioner Coach (by The American Board of NLP), Hypnotherapist (by The American Board of Hypnotherapy), Time Line Therapist, MA in Marketing by Kingston University, London, UK. Her goal is to help people create change in their lives.

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  1. Adriana, thank you so much for sharing! It’s such a wonderful story!
    I am sure it will inspire others to find their purpose in life.

  2. Adriana, that was an inspiring story, it’s true that we think what we don’t have will bring us happiness and take for granted the gifts that life awards us, like friendship, good health and above all love, for ourselves and others. Love to you! :0)

  3. Janice Silveira says:

    Great story! Thanks for sharing.

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